So now that everything is running smoothly and you are the envy of every other couple out there, it is time to sit back, relax, and....
COUGH COUGH COUGH HACK....
Wait, no. Not my beautiful world! Illness! Why?!
Okay, calm down. Don't panic. I will just man up and power through. My wife won't notice anything beyond my cough.
Okay, anyone who agreed with that needs to really consider how connected they are to their partner. Of course they will notice. Every day there are hundreds of little things you do. When you are ill, some of these will change. You lose focus, you lose energy, motivation is right out the window.
Yes, you should work through the small stuff. Allergies and small colds, bumps, bruises, couches applied to spleens...
Big things will drag you down in ways you don't even notice. Tell your partner before they notice so that they don't start feeling like they are the cause. When you go from being talkative at night to being quiet and passive, they will notice. You are a part of their life and they shouldn't be in the dark.
If you find yourself on the opposite side of an odd silence, ask them about it. If they are feeling under the weather, it is time to be a supporter. Listen to what they need. This can be as easy as them telling you what they want. Other times it will be obvious signs of effort where there weren't any before. Don't let your partner suffer anything alone. They are a part of you now. Act like it.
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